A higher percentage of marriages are crumbling today, and some that look good on the
outside are unstable within. Some are just for show to appease others and the children –
and the issues that cause them to crumble are simple things like credit cards, bills,
closet space, long working hours and the 3rd-party influence (friends or family).
Never make decisions in your household based on the opinions of others. So what if
your friends buy new homes, vehicles or gets opportunities that you don't.
Some of you are taking advice from people whose marriages have failed, or who have
never been married.
There are even people, who will starve their partners of time and sex by becoming
occupied with other things, getting degree after degree, while their marriage is
crumbling. They do it to compete. Remember, every marriage comes with a covenant
and breaking these covenants carry serious consequences.
Always marry who God says for love and for fulfillment of purpose. Any other motives
will bring pain and headaches. Remember that there are gold-diggers and opportunists
out there on both sides. There are also very good actors around but when the costumes
are removed, that is when you will see the true character. Then it will be too late for a
refund.
Good men and women still exist but you must look beyond what the natural eyes see
and trust God for His choice. Marriage is more than sex, more than the wedding
ceremony. It is not a "Mills and Boon" Situation, it is a real life. There are no roses
without thorns. When someone's marriage fails then everything else falls apart. That is
the reason it is so valuable. Many times when marriages fail, people become bitter, but
they don't accept that they are not blameless.
Know this! Dating and having sex do not determine whether a person is marriage
material or not, because there are actors who can play any role, and after the Opening
Night, God help you!
